by COSS Blog Contributor Joann Homen
One of the worst habits humans have is that we are constantly "Shoulding on ourselves" yepp you read that right we are "Shoulding on ourselves"!
You should do this, you should do that, you should've done this, you should've done that...been there done that and I bet anyone of you reading this are in the same boat.
"Shoulding on ourselves" is not healthy because:
1) It undermines our confidence because we are always second guessing what we do and don't do rather than trusting ourselves
2) It holds us back because we are imposing our "OWN" rules about what we should and should not do and how our life should or should not proceed
3) It perpetuates fear of moving forward because we second guess ourselves
A perfect example of this is when I was in my late teens I clearly remember telling friends that I was going to be married and have 2-3 kids by the time I was 25. This was what peer pressure dictated at the time and I went right along with it decided that is a rule I had to follow.
Luckily for me things didn't work out that way and I did the family thing later in life which I am glad that I waited to do so.
We do similar things to ourselves all the time and this clearly can and often does cause difficulties in our life.
We would be well advised to eliminate "Shoulding on Yourself" and the limitations that brings and instead go with the flow and be open to the wonderous possibilities that the universe will bring our way.
IF you are willing to get out of your own way, and this is one "Should" that I recommend you do actually follow, you will find that your life flows more freely and that opportunities present themselves that will enhance your life and allow for your personal and spiritual growth!
So, NO MORE “Shoulding on Yourself”!