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Article by Aletheia Luna from Loner Wolf

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Let’s be honest here, being present in the moment sounds good in theory … but in practice, we suck at it 99.9% of the time.

How many times have you found yourself making all these fancy mental plans of “being as present as you possibly can” and imagining yourself as a Zen-master-to-be or advanced yogi in the making … and then a few minutes later you’re crunching down a packet of Doritos and staring vacantly at the Instagram stream on your phone?

Can you relate to this frustrating phenomenon?

Since interest in meditation and mindfulness blossomed in the 1990s there has been endless talk about the importance of “being in the present moment,” practicing mindfulness diligently, and meditating every day.

It seems like everywhere we look in the realm of wellness, self-help, and spirituality, being present is glorified as the highest of virtues. And I have nothing against that because it’s true. Being present is really the only sane way to live life.

But there’s one sticky issue that I’ll cover in this article, along with some down-to-earth advice for how to be more present each day.

What Does ‘Being Present’ Mean?

Being present simply means inhabiting this moment without getting lost in thoughts about the past or the future. When we’re being present, we’re vividly awake and conscious of what is going on in the here-now.

A definition of being present often used is quoted from professor and founder of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, Jon Kabat Zinn, who defines the present moment (or mindfulness) as:

… paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgementally.

The Power of Presence: Why it’s the Solution to Nearly Everything

With popular books like ‘Be Here Now’ by guru Ram Dass published in the 1970s and ‘The Power of Now’ published in the 2000s by spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle, most of us on the spiritual path are aware of the power of being present.

We can recognize that when we’re fully living in the here and now, we’re not suffering as much from the baggage of the past or future anxieties.

Being present helps us to tend to our needs, be more thoughtful and empathetic with others, make wiser and more conscious choices, listen to our Soul’s deeper impulses, slow down and appreciate life, and experience states of joy, awe, and peace.

Furthermore, when we’re present and are truly ensouled in the here-now, we’re also less identified with the fragmented and contracted sense of self that we call “ego.”

The ego or sense of “me” – which is essentially just a conditioned habit of thought that is changeable, permeable, and ultimately illusory – dissolves when we’re in the present.

The result of this temporary ego dissolution is a feeling of more freedom, social connectedness, and even spiritual Oneness.

All in all, being present is powerful because it is the only place or space in which we can feel truly alive, at peace, and whole.

But there’s one major pitfall most of us tend to make when we’re trying to be “more in the present moment.” We’ll explore that next.

Why is Being in the “Present Moment” So Damn Hard?

I actually made a video about this question a while ago, so if you feel like watching my explanation (shared alongside Mateo), you can watch it below. Otherwise, keep reading!

At one point or another, most of us have felt frustrated about and disappointed by our inability to “stay in the present moment.” We’re prone to wondering things like, “Why can’t I just be more present? Why is it so damn hard? What’s wrong with me?”

At the very worst, the whole idea of trying to be “more in the present moment” is a yardstick by which the spiritual ego within us uses to measure our worth and “spiritualness.”

In other words, that part of the ego that masquerades as “being a spiritual person” (aka. what I’m referring to as the spiritual ego here) will ultimately find the practice of being present in the moment not just a threat to its “level of spiritualness,” but also fundamentally a stressful chore and finally, a tortuously difficult activity.

But why?

To put it simply, we find it so difficult to be in the present moment because the very words – the very notion of a “moment to be in” – is totally misleading.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines “moment” as “a minute portion or point of time; a comparatively brief period of time” which makes it sound like being present can only happen in a tiny little spec of the here-and-now.

“Present moment” gives our minds the impression that being present means somehow “catching” that little sliver of time that’s here, because the next moment it’ll be gone. If we don’t latch onto that tiny spec of time, our opportunity to be mindful is over!

Take a moment (there’s that word again!) to consider what “present moment” means to you … go on. Look away for a few moments from the screen and connect with what “present moment” means to you …

Does it seem like the “present moment” is a brief and passing period of time?

If so, I want to point something out here:

There’s no such thing as a “present moment” because the only moment there ever is, is this, here, now.

Even thoughts of the past or future, or getting lost in daydreams, or anything else your mind conjures, only ever happens in the this-here-now. When else could it happen? Really?

Perhaps a better and more accurate word would be present movement. Whatever is happening in the this-here-now is dynamic, alive, fresh, spontaneous, and always forever changing.

I take inspiration for this term from spiritual writer and teacher Jeff Foster, who writes:

Since the words ‘moment’ and ‘movement’ come from the same root, it may be better to call this the present movement. The present movement of life! The movement of thoughts, sensations, feelings.

There is a kind of alive effervescence to the term “present movement” as opposed to the more static and dry “present moment.”

I have personally found that connecting with the present movement is a far more enjoyable, sustainable, and realistic practice than trying to catch the next present “moment.”

Going Deeper: You ARE the Present Movement

The second part of what I’ve just written about above is that the here-now is not only an ever-changing movement, but it’s also what you are at your core.

Let me explain a little more.

The second part of why we find being present so difficult is that the separation between “I” and “the now” creates a friction that makes it seem as though you have to “get to” or “find” or “catch” the present movement – and that can keep you stuck in a never-ending mental hamster wheel of trying to “be in” the here-and-now, which paradoxically evades you. (And yet, even this search for the ever-present now always happens in the now!)

But as teacher and author Scott Kiloby writes,

In enlightenment teachings, you may hear the phrase, “be present.” But if you look around, ‘you’ are the present moment. ‘You’ are not separate from it. ‘You’ are life itself. The only thing obscuring this realization is mental and emotional activity that continuously tries to move away from this moment into a dream of past, future, and resistance to now. The notion that you are separate from life is a creation of thought.

In other words, deeper than the semantics of “present moment” vs. “present movement” is this fundamental sense of separation we feel that arises from the sense of self, the ego.

The ego is a necessary biological survival mechanism, and I’m not saying to go and “kill your ego.” But if you can see that trying to “be in the present” from the stance of the ego actually blocks your capacity to recognize that you are Life itself – which is by nature always here-now – then you’ll see why it can feel so difficult to practice being present.

As Kiloby goes on to write,

Paradise is already here, now. It has always been right here, right now under the dream that there was a “you” who was somehow separate from it and who needed to do something to find it.

This notion of paradise or freedom that comes through recognizing ourselves as the present movement of Life itself, reminds me of an old biblical quote from Jesus in which he says,

Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the kingdom of God is within you.

If you’re confused or unclear about anything written in this section, I encourage you to explore the nature of your sense of self.

Exploring the field of non-duality and practicing the “Who am I” self-inquiry meditation can help tremendously.

Blocks to Being Present

Let each of us examine his thoughts; he will find them wholly concerned with the past or the future. We almost never think of the present, and if we do think of it, it is only to see what light is throws on our plans for the future. The present is never our end. The past and the present are our means, the future alone our end. Thus we never actually live, but hope to live, and since we are always planning how to be happy, it is inevitable that we should never be so. – Blaise Pascal

Now that we’ve explored the two biggest blocks to being present (the misleading idea of a “present moment” and the divisive nature of the ego), let’s explore a few other blocks.

There are many reasons why the mind wants to avoid being present. Here are some common blocks:

  • Avoiding the present movement due to unresolved emotional or physical pain that makes being in the now painful

  • The belief that happiness/fulfillment was in the past or is in the future

  • Contracted energy in the body/nervous system that fuels thought, creating a cycle of body-mind escapism from the here-now

  • Beliefs about how life “should be” and therefore a rejection of the present movement as being “too simple and too boring”

  • A dense shadow self that creates addictive and escapist behavior

  • Fear of the inevitable ego death (scary word for something actually quite beautiful) that comes from being truly present

The above list isn’t exhaustive, but you get the picture. And the reality is, all of these blocks happen in the present movement anyway, even if we aren’t aware or consciously tuned into it!

5 Practices For Being Present

It’s kind of ironic that I’m suggesting practices here for “being present,” when you are always and forever in the present and you don’t really need to “do” anything to “get there.”

And yet, life is a great paradox. From the perspective of the ego, which most of us operate from, we need something to do, something to orient ourselves with.